House and Home

“There, that house on the left, the small white one, next to that enormous one, that is where I live, that’s my home“

There you have it, the difference between house and home. When I use the word house, I mean a particular kind of thing that all of us easily recognise as having walls, windows, doors, and a roof, perhaps a garden, and holding many, many more things that one can see and engage with upon entering.

When I use the word home I use it to refer to my engagement with those things in the activity of living, perhaps together with others, such as my wife and children.

I have tender feelings towards my house because it is mine and charming. I love my home because I enjoy making it beautiful in co-creation with my wife, with whom I make a life together.

The temptation is to attempt a clear distinction between the words house and home. There have been many such attempts. But above a brief flirtation, people tend to sink back into a comfortable vagueness with regard to the use of these two words. And though I enjoy clear distinctions where useful and possible, I am not sure they serve any clear purpose here.

But there are some exercises we can do. For example, it is perfectly reasonable to say: “My house is my home.” But it does not quite work the other way around: “My home is my house”, or at least you would not be saying quite the same thing. In other words, the two concepts in our use of them are not quite commutable. There is a set that includes everything that belongs to ‘my home’, and another that includes everything that belongs to ‘my house’, but their relationship is not identical. Is the one a subset of the other, or is it that they only partially overlap?

I would venture to guess the latter. We simply use the words in slightly different contexts. And in the same context, we would use the words in slightly different ways.

“I invite you to my home…”

“I invite you to my house…”

Both of these are legitimate uses of the words in the same context and, in this case, may well have identical meanings.

“I invite you to my …., and you insult me by being rude to my guests.”

I could use either word in a sentence like this and achieve the same effect. I don’t believe there is even a shade of difference between the two words, except perhaps that the word ‘home’ in this context could be used to give the reprimand a tad more emotive charge, though I am not sure, it would very much depend on the intonation used on the occasion.

One could say: “I have sold my home”, which would indicate an emotionally charged event; but one tends to say: “I have sold my house”, and then perhaps qualify that with “that house has been my home for more than forty years!” In this sense, ‘home’ refers to the conceptual locus of the life I have lived there, and ‘house’ to the conceptualisation of that life’s material and spatial expression.

This is certainly where most attempts to draw a clear distinction between the two words depart. However, I find their entanglement more interesting to explore. After all, my life is my thoughtful engagement with the material and spatial expression of things. To create a home is to lay claim to a locus constructed by things in a space that is my special privilege to use and organise as I see fit. Or at least in negotiation with those I share my house and home with.

As such, the subtleties of ordinary language that allow the two words to cohabit such an intimate conceptual space tell us that the construction of a life is all about our engagement with things and fellow beings.

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